The other day I received an SMS quoting a verse from The Quran which read;
“Those who spend [in Allah’s way] in time of prosperity and in time of hardship, and hold in check their anger, and forgive their fellow-men, because God loves the doers of good;” [3:134]
I contemplated over the verse and came to realize that the three things ordained by God in the above verse are one of the hardest things to do for an ordinary soul.
“A man giving in alms one piece of silver in his lifetime is better for him than giving one hundred when about to die.” Prophet Muhammad [PBUH]
We want money badly and love spending on the things we want for ourselves, our family, friends and relatives. A lot of things we don’t even need at times. Whereas, when it comes to spending a portion of our wealth in charity, we feel like some force is holding us back. In times of prosperity, however, It’s easy to give away something in alms, but in times of liquidity crunch it seems almost next to impossible to give away bucks to someone in need.
“If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.” Chinese proverb
Controlling one’s anger is just hard. My personal experience has taught me that anger does more damage than good, in fact it never does good. The only things left after venting one’s anger are ‘regrets’ and ‘feel-bad’ sentiment. Some people are just born with hot temper, a little push and they lose themselves all over. The trouble is when they don’t even try working towards overcoming this behavior of theirs.
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” Mahatma Gandhi
To forgive and let go of someone’s wrongs is just as arduous an act as the two stated above. It is very natural for us that the wrongs others do always look bigger than our own. Sometimes the mistakes of our friends or family members seem so grave that we start telling ourselves that this is insanity, stupidity, a sheer bullshit and we’re not going to forgive that person anyway, even though it is we who get hurt by not forgiving and letting go. Nobody’s going to live forever, and we are not going to be remembered for being unforgiving.
And let not those among you who are blessed with graces and wealth swear not to give (any sort of help) to their kinsmen, Al-Masakin (the poor), and those who left their homes for Allah’s Cause. Let them pardon and forgive. Do you not love that Allah should forgive you? And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. Quran [ 24:22 ]
“Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy.” Matthew 5:7