A colleague of mine is a practicing Muslim. He has tried to do everything in accordance with the rules of the religion. He followed a specific religious school of thought and often sought guidance from the scholars in respect of any issue he faced in life. A year or two back while I was riding with him in his car, I tried to turn the radio on to listen some music. He very courteously told me that he didn’t listen to music as it was forbidden in religion; however I could listen to Qura’n recitation CD if I liked.
Yesterday I was again driving with him and he just turned the radio on himself. Surprised! I couldn’t help asking him why he was listening to music then which he didn’t listen earlier. He told me that his strictly following of a particular scholar with regard to music, tv and specifically moon sighting was creating some problems in his family. He told me that he used to celebrate Ramadhan Eid (Eid followed by 29 or 30 days of fasting) one or two days after the actual Eid had befallen throughout the country, because the scholar he followed said in order to stop fasting and celebrate Eid a person has to see the moon with his naked eye. So while everyone at home was celebrating Eid, he was fasting because (as per his belief) he couldn’t sight the moon himself. Besides his wife and kids, this made his mother uncomfortable in particular. A year later his mother fell ill and was hospitalized few days before Eid. She requested his son to celebrate Eid as announced by the State Mufti this year, which he obliged quite willingly.
The incident made him revisit his established set of beliefs and he started doing some research on topics such as moon sighting, music and TV. Consequently he came to follow a somewhat moderate school of thought who advocates the conviction that music and art are ok as long as they don’t induce you to indulge in acts disliked by God. Now he is comfortable and okay with his family and so is his family with him.
This reminds me of my own set of beliefs which I held few years back so dearly that I used to have arguments with other people who disagreed with me. I used to adore a scholar and would believe everything he used to say. At the same time I used to dislike a columnist so much that I would never agree with him. Time went by, and my horizon of knowledge kept increasing by reading different writers. Now I still admire that religious scholar but don’t agree with him on a number of issues, at the same time I admire that columnist while disagreeing with him on certain things.
The tragedy is that ‘rational/independent thinking’ and ‘questioning’ are discouraged by the so-called representatives of religion. They preach that thinking and questioning weaken our faith as we become doubtful, and this doubt is instilled by the Satan so that we deviate from the right path. They don’t seem to appreciate the fact that God gave human beings mind to reflect, to judge, to ponder over everything they come across so that they can finally know the Truth and see the Truth.
Notwithstanding, at the end of the day everyone’s responsible for her/his own actions to God.
This is how the office looked like today in the noon because I didn’t have enough sleep and had been fasting… 🙂
Narrated `Umar bin Al−Khattab:
Some Sabi (i.e. war prisoners, children and woman only) were brought before the Prophet. A woman amongst them was milking her breasts to feed. And whenever she found a child amongst the captives, she took it over her chest and nursed it (she had lost her child but later she found him).
The Prophet said to us, “Do you think that this lady can throw her son in the fire?” We replied, “No, if she has the power not to throw it (in the fire).”
The Prophet then said, “Allah is more merciful to His slaves than this lady to her son.”
Volume 8, Book 73, Hadith #28)
Not long ago, a friend of mine had this as her status on Facebook.
“When half dressed women with Muslim names parade in an enticing gait up and down the ramp, flaunting everything they’ve got and when Muslim men ogle at them defying anything and everything their Creator has to say about this bare-all, dare-all “mega” excitement and that too on Friday, then wait for an earthquake of unprecedented proportions.”
(Thoughts of a Muslim Sister about a Fashion show starting tomorrow)
Though God didn’t send any earthquake, but I wondered how could one just be so judgmental! No believing Muslim can deny that it is Allah (SWT) who causes all natural occurrences. But one fails to understand why God would send earthquakes to an entire country or a city only because a small number of women (crudely dressed) are walking down the ramp while a crowd, including men, is looking at them. And who are we to judge God’s behavior? God does as He wants. And it’s wrong to assess or predict His behavior according to human ideas of what made sense. To me God should send tremor when an innocent girl is raped, when an innocent girl is sold in marriage to an elderly man, when an innocent girl is killed in the name of honor. The same way, to someone else acts like telling lies, cheating, gambling, and consuming alcohol should attract God’s wrath. But these are all our own ideas of justice as God has not listed down things doing which may attract His fury of what kind.
But then again, who are we to judge others to the extent that we even attribute coming of natural catastrophe to their obvious acts of ‘immodesty’? Do we forget that the very trait to judge others is quite opposite of what Islam teaches us to be? We only see one aspect of these models’ lives, that is catwalking, but we have no idea what good deeds they might be doing in their respective lives. Apparently they are doing something unislamic, but only Allah knows what’s outside and inside their hearts, He knows their good deeds might just be more than bad deeds to attract His forgiveness. Having negative opinions of others are baseless assumptions which often lead to backbiting, and backbiting can be in unspoken form too. Needless to say that Allah (swt) has equated backbiting to eating one’s dead brother’s flesh in Quran.
“O you who believe! Avoid much suspicion, indeed some suspicions are sins. And spy not neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear Allah, verily, Allah is the one who accepts repentance, Most Merciful.” (Qur’an 49: 12)
Before we judge anyone, Muslims or not, we should look at ourselves first. I’m sure we can all find a number of things to improve upon. On the Day of Judgment we will be judged by our Creator, and each person will be responsible only for her or his own faith and actions. So we have no right to judge people. Let’s leave judgment only to Allah (swt).
“Who receives guidance, receives it for his own benefit; who goes astray does so to his own loss. No bearer of burdens can bear the burden of another, nor would We punish until We had sent a messenger to give warning”. (Qur’an 17:15)
May Allah forgive us for any judgments we have made on others, and help us not judge others in times to come. [Ameen]
Disclaimer: I am not against performing rituals nor I judge any religious practice to be right or wrong.
The other day, kids were playing Cricket in the street in our neighborhood (like they always do). One kid hit a shot and the ball fell inside a home. The home had recently been decorated with green icicle lights in commemoration of the birth of our Prophet, Muhammad (Peace be upon him). The kids rang the bell and a young bearded man came out on the door with ball in his hand. He twisted his face, rolled his eyes and told children (in a threatening tone) that he won’t return them the ball if it again got inside the home. Anyone who grew up listening to the stories of the prophet’s kindness and love with children could imagine how compassionately and kindly the prophet would have acted here. The incident made me realize that when it comes to doing anything that doesn’t require us to act justly, we leave no stone unturned in exhibiting our love and respect for our religion and religious personalities, whereas, at the same time, giving lip service to the injunctions of the holy book and the very teachings of the Prophet (peace be upon him) in shaping our attitude and behavior towards life.
In our society the exhibition of religiosity has increased manifold. The emphasis on the performance of religious rites with all their pomp & show sans their very purpose has just gone overboard. During Ramadan/Ramazan, the month of fasting, we stay hungry throughout the day, offer prayers regularly but do very little [or nothing] to understand the very spirit of fasting and reform our personalities likewise. Whereas the month signifies the attaining spiritual strength and eating/drinking less, we however defeat the noble purposes of fasting every year. Traffic jams become more usual, the consumption of foods increases manifold accompanied with a significant push in prices.
The same kind of showoff is witnessed during the month of Hajj wherein the Great Sacrifice offered by the prophet Abraham is repeated by sacrificing the animals as required by the Quran. This one injunction of the Quran is so proudly acted upon only because all it requires is a couple of thousand rupees. That’s it. Though Allah says, “Their flesh and their food reach not Allah, but the devotion from you reacheth Him. Thus have We made them subject unto you that ye may magnify Allah that He hath guided you. And give good tidings (O Muhammad) to the good.” ( Quran 22:37) Otherwise no other injunctions are followed with such enthusiasm because they require reforming our character to attain piety; such as not to lie, not to cheat, to be just and fair etc. We buy the best animal at maximum price, where does the money come from is least bothered about.
Then comes the month of Muharram. On 10th of Muharram 61 (October 10, 680 AD) a The Battle of Karbala between Imam Hussain [peace be upon him], the grandson of the Prophet of Islam, and Umayyad ruler Yazid I took place wherein Imam Hussain was martyred along with his companions. The event also strengthened the earlier division among the muslims. The day is mourned throughout the world by muslims in general and Shias in particular. The first ten days of Muharram are accompanied with a number of ceremonies associated with the incident of the Battle of Karbala. The message and the spirit as to why Imam Hussain rose against Yazid (ruler of the time) and why he gave his life along with his family and companions are well forgotten and skipped over by the narrators of the event, all that remains today are customs.
There is no denying to the fact that religious rituals are necessary to keep our faith alive, but the spirit should never be lost, in fact the message of justice, compassion, humility, love, tolerance, forgiveness and kindness which is at the heart of every story should be put emphasis on.
Peace be upon you all.